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ManOS
Overview
Everything below is rooted in my core value of creating self- esteem . My actions today focus on work , girls, travel & having fun. My career is the ultimate leverage point as this creates the money , self-esteem and confidence . The money allows me to travel and the self-esteem & confidence allow me to live the lifestyle that is congruent with drawing in girls.
Long term (5+ years ), I want my life to offer value to the world by having a beneficial impact on those around me. I am obviously not clear how I will do this, so for now, I am focused on taking the greatest strides possible over the next few years, to better put me in a position to achieve my long term goal.
1. Career
Vision
I want to earn the rank of manager in my firm within the next 3 years. I want to earn the respect and trust of fellow employees. I want to become an integral member of my team by providing distinct and high quality service to my clients.
Purpose
Earning the respect and trust of other highly influential members within my profession will provide the greatest opportunity for me to network, grow, and provide my own value back in return. By enhancing my value, I'm crafting my own skills that can be applied to any facet of my life. This visible growth in my career will feel amazing and create massive amounts of self-esteem.
My greatest strengths will come through as a leader in my career field. I will grow tremendously as I learn to motivate, engage, and train staff below me. I will feel even more motivated to do a great job as I lead by example. As I develop personally and professionally I will develop a sharper eye and prevent my mind from going soft. I will enjoy working collaboratively in a group that understands each others weaknesses and together becomes greater than the sum of their parts.
I will greatly enjoy developing my skills of time management, being able to delegate, finding the right questions to ask, and communicating my knowledge effectively in a concise manner. Above all, I will develop an eye to seeing opportunities and being able to execute on them .
My life will offer more value to the world through my work and this will amp up my self-esteem as I am living my values. Having a beneficial impact within my firm and for my clients is a big motivator for me because I feel amazing when I benefit others. Having a successful career early on will open up many opportunities down the road to either deepen my impact within my profession or explore new opportunities elsewhere.
Success at my firm will allow security for myself and my family, if I choose to have a family later in life. This security will remove any sort of doubt I have about the future and raise my base line of comfort to a new high.
Its not about winning or losing, but its about maximizing and fulfilling my potential. This pursuit drives me at the core, and leaves me with that deep sense of fulfillment at the end of the day. This fulfillment fuels my self-esteem and makes me feel grounded to reality because my impact is tangible.
Goals
- Monday-Saturday (excluding Christmas eve & day) 8am - 7pm
- Focus solely on my main project. My team is mostly working from home this week and enjoying the holidays.
2. Girls/Relationships
Vision
I want to have the self-esteem and skills necessary to have 2-3 highly attractive girls I see throughout the week in win/win relationships.
I want to have more than enough time & energy to meet plenty of new girls each night I go out.
Purpose
I find I am most grounded and confident in all other aspects of my life when I have multiple girls texting me and wanting to see me. This confirms that I am on my path as a man and enhances my self-esteem in such a way that I feel incredible .
Girls are able to point out my blind spots when I have missed them and are very helpful in making me improve my lifestyle. These insights are priceless as each small tweak each day adds up to massively different results over many years. Knowing I am working to become the best version of myself makes me feel amazing and highly motivated in each other of my ManOS.
Going out to meet girls requires a clarity of intent that is able to be applied to all other aspects of my life when I am not focused on girls.
I will enjoy my 20s as best as I can as going out is the best way to meet people. In other words , the opportunity will be there every night to meet incredible people, but those opportunities might dwindle a bit as I get much older. Having fun at this age is an absolute baseline of my behavior and its so much fun to go out and meet girls.
Goals
- No more than once a week with a girl
- Have a 24 hour period where I do not text each girl
- No going out this week, but get back to going out after Jan 10th (main work project wraps up)
3. Finances
Vision
Excluding my contributions to my Roth IRA & 401(k), I want to have 100k of assets within 3 years or right before I turn 28. I want to have a solid budget that focuses on my monthly savings rate as this will be within my control as opposed to my portfolio which will fluctuate with the market . I want to see improvements in my monthly savings rate every single quarter between now and my 100k goal is complete .
I want to be able to afford a much nicer apartment that still has a nice view of Chicago , perhaps River North or Old Town. I want to live within walking distance of many popular venues in Chicago.
I want to live consciously by finding opportunities to be frugal. I want to be someone people come to for personal financial advice.
Purpose
I derive massive amounts of confidence knowing there is a safety net in my bank account and even more assets in my portfolio. I love that I have mastered my debt when I graduated college over a year ago with nearly 50k in debt and now I have that debt under control. I enjoy having built the financial discipline to handle a budget, pay massive amounts down on my debt, and build sizable amounts of wealth each month. This creates a stress -free lifestyle that is incredible and only feels even more incredible as each month passes and I become wealthier. It feels great to know this current process is the result of many many many hours of hard work put into learning and understanding how to do this.
I love the rewards that come with having the will power and the self-discipline to save money and pay down my debt. Having lived on a Spartan lifestyle for various points in the last 18 months, I am so much more confident because I have learned through experience how to have higher levels of financial discipline.
I feel fortunate knowing the greater amount of money I have creates opportunities that exist only once you have money. Its easier to make money once you have money. If a business opportunity comes up or a big trip comes up, I want to be able to take up someones offer without needing to scramble for funds.
I feel if my friends or family were ever in a tight spot for cash , I could help them out and provide more value to them than just my time. I would feel like a true financial rock in some lives because I know I can also provide that last minute financial stability that would change that persons life for the better.
I love having more freedom because I have more money. I love understanding the value of money and understanding the relationship between money and peace of mind.
In the long run, I don't plan to live an extravagant life, but would rather watch my money compound so that one day I can give large amounts of money away to charities or causes. This is in line with my other values and makes me feel like I am leaving behind the best possible legacy for those who know me.
Goals
- No cabs to or from work
- Opt for water during every meal
- Eat groceries for lunch 5x/week and for dinner 5x/week
- No delivery food, its convenient, but its smarter to save a few bucks by opting for groceries or walking to a place to clear my head and pick up the food there
4. Health & Fitness - Lifting & Triathlons
Vision
As of November '13 I was at 187lb (84kg) and ~7.7% body fat with a ~6'2" frame (187cm). I want to have a body like Brad Pitt in Troy or Chris Evans in Captain America by the end of 2014. This means I need to be around 197lb and possibly lose 1-2% in body fat.
I want to improve my triathlon times and become a much better swimmer over the next 6 months. I want to complete a half-ironman within the next 3 years but only if this does not compromise my ideal body.
I want to improve my mind & body by eating healthy foods that provide me clean sources of energy.
Purpose
Shaping my body creates self-esteem. Shaping my body is a clear sign to myself and others of how I value my own body. The added energy that the gym and proper cardio provides will enhance my ability to improve other aspects of my life.
Training in the gym and training for a triathlon is a highly enjoyable process for me and helps keep me real grounded. I love hammering out a solid gym session or a good swim, bike, or run. I love the headspace I get into after these training sessions. Many of my best ideas come during these moments.
I will develop that mental ability to push through the pain and hardwire that "keep moving " attitude. To a degree, triathlon training is therapeutic, absolutely.
Developing my ability to swim will also be beneficial for many decades as swimming is a healthy way to get cardio even as you reach a higher age. This skill will be invaluable to staying healthy as the years go by.
Eating a clean diet helps me think clearly and I can avoid feeling bogged down after unhealthy meals. I feel renewed and refreshed after most healthy meals. I love this clear thinking headspace because then I can focus on doing work or talking to girls and having fun. Eating healthy keeps my skin clean and I feel great about having healthy skin. Eating healthy will also be great for my long term health so I can continue to stay highly productive and engaged later in life.
Goals
- Gym - 3x/week
- Cardio - 3x/week
- Abs - 2x/week
- Eat greens everyday
- 3+ glasses of water each day
- Green shake each morning
5. Entrepreneur & Skills
Vision
My current career allows me to be an entrepreneur in some aspects within my current role and I want to be as innovative, creative, and effective in my career as possible. I want to develop myself into someone who can offer the most value back.
I want to hone my skills so I create more massive amounts of additional value at my job.
Purpose
I enjoy being an effective and efficient member of a team. By developing my own strengths and weaknesses, I will create a higher level of self-efficacy as I live my life in business. This ability to master a new skill and apply it to my current lifestyle develops that self-efficacy and that confidence to know I can do it again and again with various other skills.
Life long learning is a passion of mine and I enjoy learning new things. Once you learn something from scratch, your ability to learn another thing from scratch only goes up so everything can compound. Learning new things also feeds into my nature of being highly curious about new things.
Being able to execute on projects provides me with so much more self-esteem;
Goals
- Review and update ManOS on 12/30
- Postpone outside readings until January 10th, when the work project eases up
6. Chicago Network
Vision
I want to enjoy a solid network of men and women who are engaged in business, culture, music, art, and enjoying themselves in Chicago.
I want to maintain a solid connection with my high school friends, my college friends, and my older crew in the city.
I also want to have a group of guys who go out and have multiple women in their lives so we can touch base on issues that come up and can learn through our mutual experiences.
Purpose
This network will let me have some fun when I'm not grinding away at my career. I love talking to people who are passionate & on a legit path in life. I enjoy this even if I have no interest in their passion, but I love seeing someones eyes light up when they talk about their passion and I see them make progress over the years in the pursuit of their dreams. I will feel great having more of these people in my life.
I also enjoy people who are funny and laid back. However , there is a fine line between laid back and loser. Everyone has a story to tell and I like being social and hearing it.
Having a group of guy friends who also openly date multiple women will give me a group I can reach out to when I need advice. Having this group will give me opportunities to discuss aspects of my life that I don't typically feel comfortable talking about. This well make me relieved as I can get certain things off my chest and offer value in a way where I feel I have a lot of value to offer, but to only a very few people who enjoy a similar lifestyle.
Having like minded individuals will keep me motivated to stay on my path. I get jazzed up each time I hear a buddy get a promotion , or take a trip, or do something awesome. I enjoy hearing about their achievements and it keeps me clear on my path and keeps me amped up.
Goals
- Focus on relationships within work by eating lunch with co- workers during the week
7. Family
Vision
I want to maintain a great relationship with my immediate family, my uncles, aunts and my cousins.
Purpose
Staying in touch with my family is fun and entertaining for me as many of them are doing exciting things. I like being able to hang out with close family members and I enjoy their company when I do see them.
I feel a deep respect for my roots and how I was brought up, so I enjoy any chance I get to offer value back to my family.
I feel better if I know my relationship with my family is strong .
Goals
- Text three cousins and call my brother in DC.
8. Meditation
Vision
I want my discipline in meditation to develop my will power and my ability to think. I want meditation to help keep me balanced in all aspects of my life.
Purpose
I've noticed the biggest personal benefit of meditation for me has been that it made sex so much more amazing. I'm not sure why or how, but since this has been a huge benefit, I really enjoy meditating for this side effect .
I enjoy feeling centered and grounded after meditation and love feeling I'm in such a great headspace after meditating. I feel it relieves any stress I have throughout the day and lets me fully relax in the evening.
Goals
- Meditate 7x/week 20m, if I get home at a decent hour from work or the gym
9. Travel
Vision
I want to have two or three big trips each year with friends, work permitting.
I want to have the freedom and financial means to have trips with my girlfriends. I don't want to do this to impress someone, but rather because I want to invite others because it is fun and will be awesome. I want to be in a position where it wouldn't be a big deal at all to invite someone on a trip with me. This would make me feel so amazing that it would increase my self-esteem knowing that I build such a great aspect of my lifestyle.
Purpose
Travel is fun as hell. I don't enjoy myself as much as when I am traveling and meeting people from different parts of the world.
Each time I travel, I feel like I learn more about myself and about the world. I love being immersed in a totally different culture, language, and lifestyle for a week or two. I enjoy taking time away from the grind to "sharpen the saw" and to gain altitude on my own life's path.
Travel is a great way to rejuvenate myself and a sweet way to get to know many of my friends even better.
Being able to travel with girls I know will make trips so much more fun. It will be a massive learning experience to be immersed with a girl for a week or two straight and seeing her nearly each moment of the trip.
Goals
- Plan out Costa Rica 2014 trip