"If she doesn't masturbate regularly, she'll be more trouble, baggage-wise, than it's worth, unless you get o on being the xer. She has to at least come up to the starting line and be comfortable conversing with her own orgasmic potential." For years, Nina herself was too embarrassed to show her "O face"--her face during orgasm--to partners, thinking it was ugly or unattractive, not realizing that men go nuts for it. "The woman needs to know how beautiful and exciting she is in that state." Truer words never spoken. To those women who don't masturbate, Nina recommends starting in small increments, ve minutes a night before bed or immediately after waking up, and listening to self-talk. What is your head telling you? Unwarranted guilt and shame? Both will pass with practice, and you must be comfortable solo before it's possible with someone else. Thirty minutes after the interview with Nina, I called Giselle.6 The verdict: she never masturbated.
I would have driven right past. I wouldn't even have slowed down. I knew then that, without the price ad- 6This is not to say that what we feel about an issue is always different from or always to be trusted more than what we think about it. However, the data are clear that our emotions and beliefs often do not point in the same direction. Therefore, in situations involving a commitment likely to have gen- erated supporting rationalizations, feelings may well provide the truer counsel. This would be espe- cially so when, as in the question of Sara's happiness, the issue at hand concerns an emotion (Wilson et aI., 1989). DEFENSE _ vantage, those other reasons would not have brought me there. They hadn't created the decision; the decision had created them. That settled, there was another decision to be faced. Since I was already there
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