All you can do is be somebody who can be loved.....the rest is up to them Life is going to push you around, beat you up and it's going to scare you, but you gotta KEEP GOING! · Some people, no matter what, are simply... meant to be · Sometimes, both men & women simply run out of love, even when there was A LOT of it in the beginning. · One of the suckiest and most frustrating facts of life is that sometimes rela tionships just end, often WITHOUT reason. · Let's play Truth or Dare...TruthSay how you really feel...DareProve it! · Love has its own time, own season, own reasons for coming and going. · When they ask me what I liked best, I'll tell them it was you. · Sometimes in life, LOVE doesn't mean forever. SORRY doesn't mean regret. FORGIVENESS doesn't mean acceptance. PROMISE doesn't mean loyalty. · No matter how independent you are
ccc_tracy_2_18-39.qxd 6/23/03 2:46 PM Page 35 Change Your Life ➤ 35 If your parents die without your having forgiven them, it can bother you for the rest of your life. ■ CLOSE PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS The second group you must forgive is the people from your close re- lationships that didn’t work out. Marriage and other intimate rela- tionships can be so intense, and so threatening to your feelings of self-esteem and self-worth, that you can be angry and unforgiving toward those people for years. But you were at least partially responsible. Have the personal strength and integrity to say, “I am responsible,” and then forgive the other person and let him or her go. Say the words, “I forgive him/her for everything and I wish him/her well
assets"; "dead heat"; "dead bolt"; "dead language"; "dead wrong"; "dead drunk"; "dead tired"; "dead boring"; "dead set (on)"; "the dead of winter." e Prepositions such as "in," "on" and "of" notoriously have no constant meaning from context to context. (Lakoff and Johnson (1980) make this point trenchantly.) f It occurs to me that even affixes and case markers are thus polysemous. The possessive in particular denotes seemingly countless different rela- tionships, only some of them expressible as "ownership" in any sense at all. Metaphor 189 It is true that we are making very fine distinctions here. Someone might well deny that all the foregoing word uses actually differ in meaning, and it may be suggested that some of the differences are only of tone or of connota- tion. But when we ask, as a diagnostic, whether a sentence of the sort listed
be always accepting of their teenagers' romantic choices. New players at this delicate game are likely to err often and, consequently, would benefit from the direction of an adult with greater perspective and experience. In providing such direction, parents should recognize that teenagers, who see them· selves as young adults, will not respond well to control attempts that are typical of parent-child rela· tionships. Especially in the clearly adult arena of mating, adult tools of influence (preference and persuasion) will be more effective than traditional forms of parental control (prohibitions and pun· ishments). Although the experience of the Montague and Capulet families is an extreme example, heavy-handed restrictions on a young romantic alliance may well turn it clandestine, torrid, and sad. PSYCHOLOGICAL REACTANCE _ _ READER'S REPORT 7 . 2
whose loyalty and true nature are always in question. In the comedy The In~Laws, the "straight" hero, Alan Arkin, is nearly driven crazy by the Shapeshifting of his buddy, Peter Falk, a CIA agent. ^ > T h e Shapeshifter is one of the most flexible archetypes and serves a protean variety of functions in modern stories. It's found most often in male-female rela tionships, but it may also be useful in other situations to portray characters whose appearance or behavior changes to meet the needs of the story. 63 SHADOW "You cant keep a good monster down!" — publicity for Ghost of Frankenstein he archetype known as the S h a d o w represents the energy
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